Fourteen Ways Women Show Sexual Attraction

bigstock-young-couple-in-love-41478814Let’s start off right.  These observations about how women show sexual attraction apply only if both of you are over the age of 30.  Why?  Because under the age of 30 years, it seems that both men and women have trouble establishing and expressing sexual desires.

I hear so often, “Why don’t women come with traffic lights?”  

In truth, there are several ways that men can tell if a woman is sexually attracted to him…and while not a complete green light – at least it is a warm yellow light that says “proceed with cautions.”

IMHO – most women do not see a difference between lust, love, and sex because they are all apart of the same package – only stages of progression.  Of course, this means that the moral majority of women do not have sex without lust and love – and the rest only fool them into believing they can be “players” in the game.  So, be careful in your game – because you might be out for a causal drive and end up in a train wreck!

Fair warning.

There are no hard-and-fast rules to figuring out if women are ready to commit to getting naked and sweaty – mostly because women decide those things in a minute and execute in a lifetime – definitely not on the male timeline.

Yes – it would indeed be easier for men if they could read minds – but it could be very damaging to the ego, so let’s discuss the signs that most women give off when they shift gears.

Ask yourself these questions because these are the biggest indicators that the light has changed she is loading the truck to move you out of the friend zone:

Touchy Feely Questions:   Behavior Problems

  • Does she share her food / drink with you or ask to taste your food/drink? – Women tend to be selective about sharing body fluids.  From eating or drinking after someone to swapping spit (or other bodily juices), offer or receiving food /drink is a sign of acceptance and testing the waters.
  • Does she lightly touch or leave her hand on your face, arm, neck, hands, or knee? – Women love connection and touching, so gently touching her hand to your face, arm, neck, hands or knees become especially important if she leaves her hand there – even for a minute because it means she likes the way you feel next to her skin.
  • Does she seem to lose focus when you do something with your hands or fingers? – This probably goes all the way back to Darwin and the Origin of the Species.  Whether programming a computer or building a house, women love tactile men.  If she is watching your hands or how you handle a wine glass, then she is assessing how safe delicate things are in your hands and how dexterously you control your fingers.  It is all in the fine tuning – and she is watching to see how well you tune.
  • Does she lean toward you – as if sharing a secret – when you talk? – Personal space is vital and women know this better than anyone.  As a matter of fact, almost every man has experienced the pain of getting into a woman’s personal space too fast; however, if a woman leans toward you when you are talking to her, then she is making you the center of her focus and investigating the possibility of a close encounter.  Plus, leaning forward has the extra advantage of showing off her assets to the best possible light.
  • Does she have outbreaks of drama that melt away easily when she has your focus? – Men usually think that women walk around in a constant state of drama.  Nothing is further from the truth if a woman is sexually attracted to a man.  Attraction and anger are proof of passion – but slight outburst of drama stir the pot to a boil which is WHY they call it “MAKE-UP sex.”  Women do not get upset over things that do not matter and men are “known” to be casually cold, so small tussles can lead to deeper understandings and indicators of trust.  The exception to this rule are the Glen Close Fatal Attraction kind of woman whose drama does not go away quickly OR the high maintenance type of woman that constantly stirs drama so you can not focus on anything else.

The Sex Questions:  Let’s Talk About Sex

  • Does she talk about sex in general with you? – There is an old adage that “women do not talk about sex with men they do not want to engage in sex.”  This is true because the brain is the biggest sexual organ in the body and the first place sexual fantasies start to brew.  If she looks embarrassed or cold if you talk about sex, then she might be shy (if that fits into her personality) or she might just want to change the subject because you are not the star of her movies.  If she engages in a sexual discussion with you, then you might have wiggle room that shows interest.
  • Does she make comment or joke in a light humored way about the two of you sexually? – This is the active form of question #6.  Humor leaves the door open for discussion while still having plausible deniability if you are not interested.  Like men, women hate rejection, so she is leaving herself a retreat in case things do not go as expected while still letting you know that the subject is open for exploration.
  • Does she share information about herself with you like fantasies indication of her naked side? – And still a little deeper, the heart of every sexual encounter for women is intimacy.  When she shares information with you about her fantasizes, sexual preferences, favorite toys, and such…she is giving you a preview to the show – a golden ticket – if you prefer, while seeking sexual acceptance and gauging compatibility between the sheets.

Communications Questions:  Sex in Motion

  • Does she listen to you with her eyes as well as her ears? – Human nature studies show that people watch things that they find attractive.  Although men are more visually enticed than women, when a woman focuses on what you are saying with long looks into your eyes, she is assessing your honesty while you talk. She is trying to tell if your words match what she sees in your eyes.  Whether you are talking about football or boats, she is watching for the connection between your passions and your thoughts.
  • Do the two of you share a natural banter? – The ability to think and talk will be a dizzying combination – if it is a quality you share.  Mental and verbal wrestling matches infused with a sense of humor gives her the impression you can give as well as you get…and giving is the key in any sexual relationship.
  • Does she keep in contact through texts or phone calls? – Texts and phone calls have two purposes.  First, a text or a phone call can be a good form of communication to keep someone up-to-date on specific things.  On the other hand, a text or a phone call that does not convey a specific message besides that she is “thinking about you” is a clear message that you are playing on her mind….and she takes the extra effort to tell you.
  • Does she do things that attempt to extend the amount of time you have together? – Whether hanging out at a movie or at dinner, if a woman makes an effort to spend extra time with you it means she is interested in the connection.   Women move pretty fast away from men they don’t want around – so take it as a compliment.
  • Does she share private background information with you? – Most women, compared to men, over share.  Some studies estimate that the average woman says 13,000 words a day or three times as many words as men.  For most men, that is a nightmare.  The answer is not in the words, but what is she actually saying?  If a woman shares private information about her background – especially if it is a painful thing – it shows trust.
  • Does she laugh often around you? – No…not that giggly little Barbie laugh that she thinks makes her nose curl up in a cute way.  I mean, does she really laugh even at the risk of looking unattractive?  When she stops worrying about what will look sexy and engages in the pure pleasure of your company, silly little girl behaviors like hair twirling and giggling go away to be replaced by genuine time of enjoying your company.

Final Thoughts:

There is an important point about this checklist.  In each case, notice the question is aimed at behavior toward YOU.

If you find a woman that does these things with all men or a major of men around you – run for the hills!

Two explanations – She is either trying to make you jealous, which shows she in NOT interested in a sexual connection just an emotion response like anger, jealousy, or teasing.
Or, she easily shares herself sexually with many people.  Unless standing in line for used goods works, you might want to look in other places.

Nothing replaces a good solid YES and this is the only way to directly know for sure if she is fantasizing about a more physical relationship, but if you are checking these items off the list, it is worth asking the question!

Sexy Erotica: Best Man for the Job

Sexy Boy

Conversation got boring,
You said you’re going to bed soon,
So I snuck off to your bedroom,
And I thought I’d just wait there,
Until I heard you come up the stairs,
And I pretended I was sleeping,
I was hoping you would creep in.
You feel like performing,
With me in the bedroom,
Floor to the dresser,
Don’t want nothing less ,
Cause I’m sure you’re the best,
That’s how you show me love,
And I let you,
Because you put it down like it’s for both of us…

I can see that you are into women,” her eyes meeting mine with a glistening dance, her hand stroking lightly over the swells of my breasts over the tight restraints of my bulging top.

Hold that thought,” I whispered into the air between us, stalking my prey as you walk across the room toward me, massive shoulders outlined in the light, I step around her on the way to meet you.

You look like a woman with a secret,” your lips claiming mine without waiting for an answer, like a man accustomed to the prize, the taste of you filling up my senses with want, my pulse pounding painfully in each nipple pressed against your chest, my nipples pleading for your attention…your eyes doing what your mouth wont dare.

Encouraging…tempting… as voices surround us again.

“My secret is … I am completely naked inside of this dress,” my head spinning from the nearness of your body to mine, affecting me like too much whiskey way too fast.

Give me five minutes and you will be completely naked outside of that dress,” the smile fluttering over your lips inviting me to play.

Lead the way…” I return the challenge, watching your eyes catch fire with promise and intensity.

She is going to be so disappointed,” you look back toward the young woman I just left, your hands traveling slowly, possessively over the curves of my body, your fingers dancing briefly across my supple welcoming breasts leaving a wake of ache and need in their path.

She would have been disappointed anyway,” my finger stroking slowly down the front of your pants, urging your erection, pleased with an immediate response, my hand caressing the thickness of your masculinity, your eyes meet mine again with a slight moan of appreciation and I revel in the control…

She is not quite…equipped for the job,” my fingers slide down to massage your balls tight and firm from the attention, your breathing stops sharply as my nails lightly trace the length of your cock and I take you between my fingers again… as your body reacts instinctively to meet my hand with each easy stroke.

But you won’t be disappointed,” I whisper words of promise into your ear as memories of desire rip across my lower lip, throbbing to feel the weight of your cock, hard and thick in my mouth, each stroke teasing my orgasm with your deep moan of pleasure as I flick my warm, wet tongue over the head of your dick…sucking your balls into my mouth until your fingers fist tight in my hair…I suck you deeper into my mouth…

Lead the way…” your eyes again focused on mine, a hint of warning mixed with a measure of meaning, my eyes meeting yours with an explosion of heat melting down my body and between my thighs in soft warm cum as your hand travels up my arm to pull me tighter against you…”you won’t be disappointed either.”

Sex in Public: Threesome and Foursomes

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“If three’s a crowd, we don’t even want to know what four is!”

As a professional marketer (means that is how I make a living!), I know that the first rule of marketing is ALWAYS “never offend your audience.”  Although the old cliche says “there is not such thing as bad PR,” it only takes one small mistake to turn a trendy ad into a poisonous personal plight by an audience. 

Take, for example, the ongoing fight by a “well-meaning” audience to get David Letterman pulled off of the air.  Granted, these are people who could not drag their carcuss out of the house to go vote for President, but David Letterman insinuated in a joke that it was acceptable for a grown man to rape a 14 year old girl.

Now, realistically, does anyone who has taken their medications for the day really believe that David Letterman believes that it is acceptable for a man to rape a teenage girl?  No!  Was the joke in bad taste?  Yes!  But, again, realistically, most of David Letterman’s jokes are in bad taste.

I won’t even discuss the Sarah Palin, media whore, fevered mob mentality about the joke, but I will say that an audience can turn on a company in a heartbeat.  Never is this more true than with sexuality in the United States. 

 It seems there is big stir about this new Calvin Klein billboard:

Calvin Klein Ad

 Now, I personally think that the ad is a beuatiful celebration of sexuality.  As a marketer, however, I can appreciate something more in this Calvin Klein ad.  This ad is literally the expression of every form of sexuality including:

  • solo sex, twosomes, threesomes, and foursomes
  • voyeurism, masturabation, and exhibitionism
  • homosexuality, heterosexuality, and bisexuality

What makes it sexy is that everyone in the ad looks so accepting of their sexuality and comfortable in their own skin.  Oh, if only life inimitated art!

As  a marketer, I can appreciate that Calvin Klein, in one ad, did what I have come to expect from Calvin Klein.  They made jeans sexy to everyone on the planet!  ~~Dee

Women’s Whispered Words of Wisdom

sexuality, sex blogs, sex , erotica female, erotica“Want to trade keys,” the significantly older woman beamed at me standing next to her Navigator. 

“Not yet,” I answered back with humor in way that suggested we were more than strangers, “I have only had her for two months.”
“Sure is pretty,”
I stepped to the side so she could see inside of the shiny Z4 that seemed almost as necessary to me now as my own heartbeat.  It was freedom…and it was peace.  Speeding down the interstate at 70 mph, hair whipping in the wind, with the top down singing at the top of my voice, “R-E-S-P-E-C-T…Find out what it means to me,” did not make me feel like an idiot at all.

“Mind if I give you a little advice?” her eyes smiled at me even through her sunglasses.

“I always listen to advice.  You never know where wisdom comes from.”

“Enjoy every minute of it while you can.  I wish I had a car like that at your age,” as she reached over to pat my arm.

After we parted, I wished I had offered to give her a ride down the road.  I wished that I would have shared of few minutes of my happiness and freedom with her for the gift of her words to a total stranger.  Because, in those few seconds, she imparted an absolute world of wisdom to me.

We are so busy worrying about everyday that we fail to recognize today for the value of more than just going to work, fixing dinner, and washing clothes.  When I started my own business 4 years ago, I asked a great friend and mentor who is outrageously successful the one pressing question on my mind:

“If you had known when you started that you would be this successful today, then what would you have done differently.”

Response: “I would have enjoyed the journey more.”

There seems to be a pattern!  ~~Dee