“What makes you think that women want to hear the truth?” he stared seriously at me across the table. The question caught me so off guard that I could barely understand that he was not teasing me into eruption.
I opened the topic with the statement that three separate women commented to me in the last month, after natural flight of honesty, that my attitude was not one of their favorite personality characteristics. Now, in reality, it is not like I accosted Carrie at the prom and teased her into submission about the fashion disaster of her prom dress. Each time, I took the strength of these empowering women at face value to give them the benefit of the most precious gift I think one human being can give to another: honesty.
See…to me, there is a difference in the white lie that says, “You have to have those shoes!” When it comes to shoes, all is fair in love and war. But when it comes to saving someone’s time, money, or heart….I take no prisoners because these are all things that cannot be replaced and there is never enough in supply. And to my estimation, this is especially true for women.
“Face it,” he continued, watching me think through his statement…try it on…turn it over in my brain. “Women wake up in the morning to spend hours putting on make-up, buying lingerie to lift the girls under your chin, and wear shoes that would be considered a torture device to most people,” he was monitoring my reaction again.
I opened my mouth to say that we did that to attract men, but in truth we do it because we are taught by society…by others…by our mothers…this is the way that women behave. So, then…does that mean that honesty is even more important now?
In truth, my attitude has not changed one inch since the first day I became a woman. Honesty makes me slightly less loved by the people around me…at times…but, in truth, it makes me love me more. ~~Dee