Once more into the fray…so to speak. Translation=I am about to step out on that shaky limb that approaches the idea of sex education and children. I know. I KNOW. Rant rant rant. But, hey…if you don’t like it or don’t agree…let me know or find the door. I am good with either a sound verbal wrestling match with logical, intelligent people or a mass exodus of the idiots!
There was an article recently called “Grade-school Lolita: So Sexy So Soon.” As I read through the article blaming all of the troubles with young girls becoming too sexual at a young age on everyone from media to mass culture, it seemed to me that the blame did not fall in the one place that children spend most of their time AND the place that holds the educational responsibilities of any society. YES…hello, the school.
Now, as many may have noticed, I do not have the obligatory warning that my blog contains adult content and I am not listed with the adult blog directories. Why? Simple really…I believe that discussion about sexuality and sex between those who know and those who want to know is a moral imperative. Nothing wrong or needing warning. SexyWhispers does not cause cancer or pollute the environment. Seeking knowledge does not come with an obligation to check ID at the door to make sure that people are “old enough” to know the truth about sexual relationships. Granted, the answers might morph a bit if I were talking to a 13 year old girl than if I were speaking to a 35 year old woman (although…I must confess that the questions are probably the same!), but if responsible, informed, intelligent women do not gather around to guide the sexual development of the next generation of girls, then how do we assume that they will learn about their bodies and sexuality?
Ummm….how did you learn about sex? Enuf said! But, I digress.
While it is true that there is too much sex in the media, there is way MORE violence in society, media, and schools. And, without the proper guidance to find the answers to the important questions of sexuality, young girls will sexually mimic what they see in music videos, friends, and media.
Am I advocating that we teach young girls about their bodies and sex in a way that might make them into strong confident women who don’t feel like they have to pimp themselves out to get the interest of a man? Ummm…well, yeah.
What are we scared of? That they might use what they are learning in sex education?
Kind of the point I would say! You see…kids are going to have sex and be sexually active. In reality, we are teaching young women to be strong and protect themselves. We are showing them how to use sex as a pleasure instead of have it used against them as a weapon.
But, first…it begins by creating a generation of young girls that feel good in their skin with a healthy self-esteem. If I had to look around mass media at the influences on young girls, then I would have to say to parents…don’t hide sexuality from young women. In a culture concerned with perfect skin, boobs, butts, make-up, and clothes, I don’t think it is the sexual depictions in media we should worry about. It is the lack of counter-influence by real people in children’s lives. Children are not being stolen from their beds at night. Parents, due to comfort or fear, are lulled into giving out only enough information to get young girls through high school. But the point screams at me….those are only 4 years of their lives (and not even the hardest years—not matter what they think!).
WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER 50 YEARS AFTER THAT?
In short, we are not preparing young women for life. And, in that…we fall and we fail because they will attempt to do it themselves. ~~Dee