“What would you do if my heart was torn in two
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say if I took those words away
Then you couldn’t make things new
Just by saying I love you.
Now I’ve tried to talk to you and make you understand
All you have to do is close your eyes
And just reach out your hands and touch me
Hold me close don’t ever let me go
More than words is all I ever needed you to show
Then you wouldn’t have to say that you love me
Cos I’d already know”—More Than Words, Extreme
A friend of mine told me the other day that “conversation was a lost art form.” Not for me. I do nothing but talk to people all day long. Those close to me will tell you that I hate to talk on the phone, but…in truth…there is a simple confusion here. Conversation is not a lost art. People talk the day away without every slamming a subject and verb together in such a way as it would convey an idea or express a feeling. Women are the worse about this. I can listen to a woman talk for 45 minutes and not be sure at the end what was said.
Do not throw things at me or start a nasty email. You know, if this upsets you…look in the mirror….might be true!
However, there are people that I enjoy talking to on the phone, in email, and in person. They are the people that know that communication is the lost art, but conversation is alive and kicking! See…the difference from where I stand is that communication uses every part of your being to convey an idea to another.
Great Communication can be…
- A slight stroke of my fingers over his hand
- A phone call that starts with “I just wanted to make sure you were ok”
- A hug of pure joy when seeing your friend again
- Eye contact with a stranger across a crowded room
- A thank you card sent to a parent….for no reason at all
I think that the basic misconception about communication is that communication is backed by an action…a feeling…an emotion. It is not filled with idol chatter about the weather or gossip about the neighbor’s affair. It is real and true.
Here is a reality check: I think that most people fail to engage in real communication….not because they don’t know how….but because they have to risk being real with the person they are reaching toward. And, risk involves the opportunity to be hurt. I noticed this when I started reading others blogs. They say things that they think and feel…really be themselves in ways that…they openly acknowledge….they would not be in public or in their own society.
Do you feel more comfortable communicating in cyberspace? Do you think people communicate better through the screen of a blog or website? ~~Dee