Oddly, from a sexual perspective, there have been many controversial discussions as to whether size matters. Most women, I believe, will easily tell a man before, during, or after a sexual encounter that size does not matter at all. I will disagree with that because size is a completely controllable. If you are confused by my understanding of male anatomy, then perhaps I should explain that, in my mind, we are not considering the size of a man’s sexual appetite or the reasonable size of his member (trying to be delicate as I used the word ‘dickhead’ in a sentence today to refer to an ex-coworker).
What amazes me when women consider the issue of whether size matters, they all too often forget that the size of a man’s heart does matter! Now, I am sure that many women out there will readily say, “Of course, that is just stupid!” Fair enough. My question is then what does a man do to show you that he loves you? Before you start to stutter off a list of responses that range from flowers to romantic dinners, please realize that is the male adaptation of a female version of love and romance. If left to men, in general, I believe that the florist, greeting card, and jewelry industries would be out of business within a month. Hummm….that might not be a bad thing.
But, in reality, there are many ways that men naturally show their level of affection for a woman that fall outside of the range of our expectations. And, because we, as women, are not geared to think of those things as acts of love—merely their duty as a man—we don’t appreciate that innocence at which these acts are performed. I know that I certainly would have a wild rebellious screaming fits while running into the street if anyone explains to me society’s expectations of me as a woman or wife because I don’t want anyone’s expectations reflected upon me.
However, when the trash needs to be taken out or the lawn mowed, does that reflect any less of a gift than a bouquet of flowers? When he gets up at 5 am to go to work, every day, because he believes in supporting his family, does that say love any less than a greeting card?
What I think happens is that we fill young girls heads so full of fairy tales of knights on white horses rescuing damsels in distress that it is destroying to the image of relationships and marriage when a man does something as un-glamorous as turn the coffee on in the morning or remembers to pick up your favorite flavor of ice cream at the grocery. Incredibly…I usually find my socks back in my sock drawer every week (I hate folding socks) and the VCR taping my favorite shows when I have to work late. To me, that is a hell of a lot of magic.
So, in the end, I ask….does size matter to you? If so, look for the small things because they add up to something much bigger. ~~Dee