“As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”– Marianne Williamson
Sometimes, I start down a path of sexual disclosure and it ends up in a path of sexual discovery. So, it has been this week with our discussions of oral sex. I am so surrounded by the women in our small community that won’t even talk about oral sex that I often forget they do not represent the world or women as a whole. I have discovered this week that many women enjoy the giving and receiving of oral sex. It is with a deep breath of relief that I have learned this. For I have spent years believing that I am the only woman on the planet that goes soft at the thought of oral sex.
At first, I tried to rationalize the feeling. Hello Freud! I mean, I practically put everything in my mouth. I like to touch things with my tongue and lips. I love to taste and sample things with my mouth. I have always chewed on pens, drank from a straw, find myself sucking the end of my fingers as I concentrate, and nibble on my bottom lip. When I find a man attractive, my lips tingle. For me, the world is an oral experience. Much to the chagrin of my friends and family, I have always stuck my tongue out at people when I was acting silly. (BTW…I can roll my tongue at the end and in the middle—both at the center horizontally and vertically! I know….freaky, but flexible!)
Even more, I started to realize that oral fetish is something deeper than just plain pleasure. It’s like mint chocolate chip ice cream pleasure. Or, amazing new pair of shoes pleasure. Or, that pair of sexy panties that make your ass look amazing pleasure. Ok…so you get the idea! Freudian….perhaps or perhaps not. It’s an argument that can not be proven or disproven as who can really say where sexual desires and sexual pleasures start? My point is…as long as there are a group of women who understand and accept the pleasures of oral satisfaction, I will continue to throw this question out for your consideration.
Oral fetish? Anyone care validate the existence?
While you wrestle with this question, I assume that everyone knows that there is such a thing as a tongue vibrator!
I know people become really uncomfortable at the thought of a fetish because they like to categorize “fetish” in the realm of the outside of the mainstream behaviors. But, in truest definition, a “fetish” is any object or non-sexual part of the body that becomes the object of a sexual desire in order to gain sexual fulfillment.
For me, the difference seems to be in need verses wants. I know what I want, but what I feel in my sexual soul…that is a sexual need….and not a sexual need just anyone can fill! ~~Dee