Everyone around me is avoiding me right now. They all know better than to cross my path at this particular time (except for My Favorite Scorpio—Kisses to him for being man enough to face me this morning!). Why?…nope… not PMS!
The Marine has been out of town on a business trip. Not having him around is literally like missing a large piece of my sexual soul. For me, a man must really take lots of time to get to know me mentally to charge me up sexually. And, being so far away makes it very hard for me to think sexually. *pouting*
Normally, this would be a great time for some tasty phone sex, but I have also been head down in a ton of work this week trying to get clear before the Girl Gone Wild weekend. I know, I have not talked about that weekend in Savannah that is sure to live in infamy very soon, but I am really super psyched about it. But first, we have lots of oral tidbits to enjoy.
Here goes…of course, I started with the ladies because I think that most women have a super hard time just relaxing and letting their men take care of their oral needs. I know I do. I always want to participate. Be in the middle of the action. But, I really believe that nothing in the world makes a man feel more “like a man” than being able to put that glow of an earth shaking orgasm on the face of his woman! Being a marketer by nature, I am not such a fan of the “if you build it, they will come” methodology; however, in pure truth, men are easily led to the fruit with one small secret in mind: if you are happily satisfied, you are willing to pop his cork too!
Now…first, lets all hold hands and drink the Kool-Aid (pick whatever flavor makes you sexy). That is, we will commit to three things on every post:
I will not feel ashamed or guilty that I give or receive oral sex! Done correctly, oral sex can be an incredible pleasure and increase intimacy between partners.
I will read and consider everything here with an open mind. Don’t feel like you have to try what you are not comfortable with, but please…think about it.
I will get over whatever hang-ups that I have about my own body including smell, taste, and shape.
Now, with these things out of the way, the things that I hear the most about women receiving oral sex from a man is that men just don’t know HOW to do it properly! Yes, I remember a conversation with My Favorite Scorpio in which I asked him, “Why do men always feel like they know everything about sex? I mean, you are not born knowing how to drive a car or add.” Well Ladies, oral sex is no different and this is where we start to teach you how to teach him.
Because this is such a wonderful community of women, I wanted leverage the knowledge base of my collection of ladies in the *Cathouse.* (Hey, I want to learn some new tricks too!) This is my hit list from around the *Cathouse* and around the web:
- My Favorite Pink Pussy wrote a post for MissM for Naughty Tuesday on the wonders of having a lady purr with oral delight. What I love about this post is that it is a no nonsense (translation: even a man can understand it!) approach to getting the oral job done for a woman. No fancy Latin terms like “Cunnilingus” to trip over on their way down south of the border! Go Kitty Go!
14 Oral Sex Tips: What can I say….WOW! What is great about this posting is that it is written by a man for men. So, the little dears can finally get some tongue on tips about how to handle the clit and the g-spot. Plus, as an added bonus, there are TONS of comments and suggestions from readers. Really great info!
Cunnilingus Techniques: There are some incredible techniques that EVERY man should practice in front of the bathroom mirror 20 times a day until he can do them in the dark!
A few tips for the ladies (because I suffer greatly from the “pleaser syndrome” or being a control freak):
Sit back and take it easy. Learn to share the pleasure of pleasing with your partner. If you are always trying to be the one that provides pleasure in the relationship, then not only is that tiring…you are cheating your lover out of the experience of seeing you orgasm under his efforts.
Use a blindfold or sleep mask. Do you get uncomfortable or loose the ability to focus on the feelings of having a sexy man diving deep between your thighs? Ask him to blindfold you with a scarf or put a sleep mask on you. This way you can recline while he dines!
Give yourself permission. Close your eyes and move into your mind. Imagine what makes you feel sexy. Enjoy the sensations, contrasts, and feeling of him on your thighs.
Tell him. Don’t be scared to speak up and tell your man what you like. If you can’t say the words, then encourage him with hip movements, moans, or saying his name (is there a man on the planet that does not love to hear his name when you cum?).
Narrate. This may sound a little crazy, but tell him what he is doing. Use those dirty little words to show him how much you are enjoying being licked or sucked.
Lastly…don’t perform. Stay in the moment and clear your mind of everything except the stud munching your muffin.
Well now, this is where oral sex starts. Comments, questions, emotional outbursts? Tips, tricks….Share. We are ready!
Coming up in the next few posts are: oral sex for women, advanced oral sex tips / techniques, oral erotica / erotic games, and possibly oral fetishes with OBE oral sex.
Remember, the fear last a minute, but the freedom lasts a lifetime! ~~Dee