“The American woman is the only woman that gets married to become a virgin.”
This is from a movie that I saw one TV recently. It is not a direct quote because the movie was not so impressive, but the statement has stayed with me for weeks. This statement came back to me again when a friend asserted that women use sex to control a relationship. I pondered. I tried to deny that…I really did, but I could not quite get there!
The question that I am trying to resolve in my mind is “why?” Why are we trying to control the men in our lives? Yes, they are men…and that can be VERY disagreeable to logic and rational behavior sometimes! But why try to control or change them?
I think that it has something to do with female insecurity with sexuality. I mean, if we are happy with someone when we take them on as a partner, then does the unhappiness come from later discovering that he is not the person we thought he was? And then, rather than go through the pain of trying to change him into the person he “should” be with the giving or withholding of sexual favors, why not find someone else who more suits our mood, style, or taste?
I know…most women will give me a speech about how it is easier to fix what is broken than find someone new. But, in reality, it really is not easier! You are investing tons of energy in changing another human being and loosing your sexuality in the process because when you input negative energy into anything—you can not get a positive result that makes you happy.
Plus, it is about making me happy, as well as, my partner. He can’t be happy not being who he is anymore than I would be not being who I am!
I believe that women use sex as a weapon because it is the only way that we feel we can control an unequal situation. But…there really is another way. One with more pride and less self esteem loss.
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