I am never sure what happens to people once they enter into a ‘relationship.’ Although I am not naïve in my belief that it is human nature to try and change something to our liking, I am a little confused as to why we so quickly try to retool someone who attracts us.
- I realize that it has something to do with the speed at which we accept a person into our lives.
- I believe it must have something to do with the preservation of our own self-esteem and well being.
I think that it is possible we need to find a reason to continually invest our feelings in another person.
It is incredible to me that we meet a person that makes us enjoy that sensual, sexual part of our being and inspires feeling within that quicken the heartbeat with every encounter.
And, with the richness and passion of that experience, why try to change those things in the person that creates the soul shaking, body tingling feelings that you search all your life to find?
For example, I am a complete flirt with the right man. It is so natural that I breathe sexuality and exude sensuality. A lesser man than The Marine might feel jealous and try to change this about me. This would kill large parts of my soul because it is who I am. So, because he understands me and knows that he is my choice, he stands back to watch the show with pride in a strong, sexy woman.
Do we try to change those things that are so attractive in a mate because we don’t want them to be attractive to others?
Don’t we realize that when we change those things that make that person attractive to others—we change those things that make them attractive to us and attractive to themselves?
One day, you look at that person and wonder how you ended up with this person. It is usually about the same time that your mate is looking in the mirror and wondering the same thing. ~~Dee