“Don’t get me wrong. I admire what you are doing with SexyWhispers. I just don’t feel comfortable with it. Perhaps if I take some time to think about it,” she had called specifically to tell me this. I wondered why. After all, she did not need to call me at all.
“I always work from my first impressions of people. I encourage you to do so too. I will tell you that SexyWhispers is part of my soul. I breathe through SexyWhispers and it breathes through me,” I tried not to be defensive, but I will admit that it was difficult. It was kind of like hearing someone say that your child is ugly or stupid. The claws come out by instinct.
For those not sure what is going on, I am the owner and President of a marketing company. As a potential client, she googled my name to see if I had any skeletons in my closet. She started by telling me that she had found tons of marketing and advertising materials by my company which was impressive, but there was this other sexual material called SexyWhispers.
“That is not the same person right?” she asked and I smiled at the hopefulness in her voice.
“That….. SexyWhispers….is more me than about anything that I do. I mean, those are my views, my feelings, my thoughts….it’s my time I invest. It’s my passion to help women be sexually comfortable. I believe acceptance of sexuality is a gift for every woman. I wish you the best in your endeavors if this bothers you.”
Honestly, I am not accustomed to explaining or apologizing for myself. I don’t try to hurt others and I won’t live my life denying what I am like I have a secret life of sex. I have a life of sex, but to apologize for that when it is brought to the forefront, to me, says that I do not accept what I am or that I am not proud of myself. This I will not compromise… this I will not do.
From a business point, I realize that I may well loose clients based on this admission. I usually tell clients what I do because I am more than proud of my involvement in this community. But, I was judged and found lacking before I had the chance to fly my colors. If I am honest with friends and family, then it is easy to be honest with people who I don’t even know me.
As I move through what I do here at SexyWhispers, I know what I am doing. My goal is clear. I am here to set up a place where everyone, mostly women….yes, can discuss sex, sexuality, and female erotica. That is why every now and then, I write a post in an erotic format. It gets the same point across, but I get to enjoy my erotic voice in this form.
The things that I know are that I won’t:
- Apologize for being the woman that I am.
- Smile for someone who is seeking to make themselves feel better at my expense.
- Let someone make me feel ashamed of what I believe or my passions.
As I close out the Thanksgiving holiday and start to look toward Christmas, I will only say that if you like what you see here, then welcome. If you want to challenge me or question me, then you have my attention. I love to be tested. If you don’t like what you see, comment or exercise your right to leave. Thinking that my confidence can’t take the hit of people judging me or sharing their opinions of me as a person is a mistake. Underestimate me if you want, but you will loose.
SexyWhispers is not about me. It is about every woman who steps into our group with the interest of understanding their own sexuality and sharing the efforts with women around them.
If you are uncomfortable with what you see or read, then perhaps that is a sign that you are in the right place. I know I am. ~~Dee