“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”
“Don’t you think she is sexy?” the pretty blonde leaned over next to me and whispered into my ear as a shapely woman passed.
“She uses her assets very well,” I said as I turned to meet a confused look. Clearly she did not understand the difference.
“She knows what is sexy about herself and uses those things to her best advantage. It is more than being sexy. It is a matter of understanding your sexuality,” I continued, trying not to smile at her loss for words. She nodded…not quite getting the point.
In our internet based, satisfaction on-demand world filtered through images of perfections and ideals, I encounter women everyday that do not understand that being sexy is more than a breast size, highlighted hair, and liposuction thighs. I am constantly confused by a society that tells adult women it is improper to buy a sex toy, but condones the purchase of breast implants for high school graduation gifts for girls with “self-esteem” issues. Let me be the first to say that self-esteem issues are not cured by bigger boobs.
Sexy comes from the inside out. A truly sexy woman will wear sexuality around her like a beautiful coat of confidence brushed to shiny perfection by an absolute knowledge of what makes her sexy. Women who understand and accept their sexuality have long given up the notion that they have to look like a celebrity, supermodel, or porn star to be sexy. They have focused on the positive aspects of their mental, physical, and psychological being to enhance those things that make them feel good when they look in the mirror. Moreover, I have noticed that the exceptionally sexy women make other women feel sexy too because they are not threatened by petty jealousy and competition for attention.
So, from here on out…we start a new workout. A workout that may be harder than all of the Stairmasters and sit-ups you will ever face. For this workout, you will have to look in the mirror and focus on all of the sexy things that you love about yourself. If you are saying, “Dee, there is nothing sexy about me!” Get over yourself. Here is where the real honesty will separate the girls from the women! I have never met a woman yet that did not have something extremely sexy about her…..sometimes, she just did not know it.
The “Sexy Me” Workout:
- Look in the mirror and tell yourself what is sexy about you. For example, I think my ass looks great. Even though I will admit to having a few extra pounds (about 10 lbs to be exact!) and medium sized boobs, my ass is my sexy thing.
- When you find that sexy thing about yourself, think of ways that you can enhance that sexy thing. Note: Be aware….some of the sexiest things are not physical! Do you have incredible eyes? Learn to use them to convey your thoughts. Is your hair beautiful? Work it! Can you use aural sex to make a man cum? Might have a job for you! (laughing)
- Repeat as necessary until you are totally fit in mind as to how your body really stands in expressing your sexuality. Look at yourself from a viewpoint of self acceptance instead of with critical eyes. Once you change your mindset to see a sexy woman in the mirror, you will see a sexy woman immerge.
It may take several attempts for you to look past those extra pounds or a few “fine lines,” but it is so worth the effort because every woman deserves to feel that strong glow of confidence when she looks into the mirror and meets “sexy me.” ~~Dee