No…Not Porn!

WomenOk, so I have been working in this job for almost a year.  For those of you not familiar, I am the offline PR and Marketing Goddess for Whispers Media.  To get this job, you absolutely must be comfortable talking about sex and be driven to help other women talk about sex!  Sound fun and easy!  Yes and No.  I mean, I love to talk about sex.  No problems at all.  I am completely passionate about helping other women talk about sex and accept their sexuality. I really believe that sex is the most pleasure we, as women, will ever experience in life. 

Do it right and do it often!!  You know?  But, I disgress…

But, in our little niche of the world, I am considered the PQ (porn queen).  Not joking here people…I have a reputation.  Because I work for a women’s erotica company, I am automatically lumped into the same category as pornography like a dirty little secret.  I started to wonder what it is about erotica that threatens people—both men and women—so much that they have to label it.

For all those listening…we are SO NOT PORN.  As a center for aural sex (that means spoken sexual pleasure!), we know women are sexual beings.  We know that women use words to convey all things…and sex is not an exception.  Therefore, we help women accept and embrace their sexuality in the best way possible…the use of the exquisite form of speech. 

Imagine if you will:

We are sitting at a restaurant the other night having a few drinks with about 10 people.  I had already discussed with my hubby what I would tell people when they ask what I do for a living.  He says….Hide or Pride!  (I love that strength.) After two adult beverages, I can feel it coming on…the question.  One of the “Ladies” looks at me across the candle lit table and says, “What do you do dear?”  <evil smile>  Alittle more willing to be shocking with two nice tall glasses of Riesling in me, I informed her that I worked for a woman’s erotica company (maybe alittle too loudly!).  Wow….was it just me or did the room go silent?  E.F. Hutton did not have that effect.

As the women gasped and the men nudged each other, one of the men leaned forward and said… “Is that like porn?”  “No,” I informed him, not surprised by his lack of understanding, “that is like erotica.”  You see…porn is a dirty little secret that comes wrapped in the mail in a “plain brown wrapper” so the neighbors don’t know. 

Although…I never could figure out what the neighbors would be doing monitoring my postal activities anyway.  Get a life already.

But, my point is…Whispers Media is not porn because we are not ashamed of what we do.  We discuss sex and our enjoyment of sex everyday.  We build it into our lives because we believe that makes us stronger women and our partners stronger too.  We chose PRIDE!  And I wont be wrapped in a brown paper bag and discarded or hidden like I am dirty.

<sigh> But, I get the same response when I go into the office store to have our invitations printed.  They are sexy sexy stuff (the office stud on it…the girl at the store asked if she could keep a copy for “personal use”-I said of course!).  Her male manager was NOT so amused as I smiled prettily at his disapproving look.  It was apparent by the grins of the staff that it had been passed around freely.

Ah well…the life of a Marketing Goddess by day…PQ by choice!

Have a favorite sexy tip that you would love to share with others?  Let’s share! Need some great reading to boost your confidence. Let me know!

I know you are out there…..I can hear you breathing hard.  Comments?  Questions?  Emotional Outbursts?~~Dee

3 thoughts on “No…Not Porn!

  1. very good blog, some people seems to think all sex is porn. But that is really wrong.
    We can enjoy sex and be grateful for our sensuality without make it dirty

    Greeting from an other blog

  2. I write, shall we say erotic romance, so I know of what you speak. These are friends and neighbors, everyday people who love to write and love sex. You’d think with erotica becoming as popular as it is, people would wise up, but still I get those coy all knowing smiles when I tell them I write erotica.

    I’ve also written a few short stories that I consider pornographic (short stories tend to be that way) so I think having written both, I know the difference, yet there are many–too many, who believe they are one and the same.

    My rule of thumb for erotica vs Pornography is, if you take out all the sex, do you still have a story. If you don’t it’s obviously porn.

  3. The phrase that resonates most with me in the article is the “we are so not porn”. I feel that anything bordering on sexual on the internet has to almost explain itself..even if it is witty, intellegent, and tasteful.
    You can watch an arthouse movie with sex scenes and think it is tasteful and nothing like Girls Gone Wild, but people have a hard time making that distinction online.
    Thanks for being open about the subject, it is very refreshing, and thanks for putting thePEEQ in your blog roll!!!

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